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Shawn Achor - the happy secret to better work




Now that was cheating, because there was nothing in the world my sister would want morethan not to be Amy the hurt five year-old little sister, but Amy the special unicorn. Of course, this was an option that was open to her brain at no point in the past. And you could see how my poor, manipulated sister faced conflict, as her little brain attempted to devote resources to feeling the pain and suffering and surprise she just experienced, or contemplating her new-found identity as a unicorn. And the latter won out. Instead of crying, instead of ceasing our play, instead of waking my parents, with all the negative consequences that would have ensued for me, instead a smile spread across her face and she scrambled right back up onto the bunk bed with all the grace of a baby unicorn ...(Laughter) ... with one broken leg.
When I applied to Harvard, I applied on a dare. I didn't expect to get in, and my family had no money for college. When I got a military scholarship two weeks later, they allowed me to go. Suddenly, something that wasn't even a possibility became a reality. When I went there, I assumed everyone else would see it as a privilege as well, that they'd be excited to be there. Even if you're in a classroom full of people smarter than you, you'd be happy just to be in that classroom, which is what I felt. But what I found there is, while some people experience that, when I graduated after my four years and then spent the next eight years living in the dorms with the students -- Harvard asked me to; I wasn't that guy. (Laughter) I was an officer of Harvard to counsel students through the difficult four years. And what I found in my research and my teaching is that these students, no matter how happy they were with their original success of getting into the school, two weeks later their brains were focused, not on the privilege of being there, nor on their philosophy or their physics. Their brain was focused on the competition, the workload, the hassles, the stresses, the complaints.
Embedded within that question is the key to understanding the science of happiness.Because what that question assumes is that our external world is predictive of our happiness levels, when in reality, if I know everything about your external world, I can only predict 10 percent of your long-term happiness. 90 percent of your long-term happiness is predicted not by the external world, but by the way your brain processes the world. And if we change it, if we change our formula for happiness and success, what we can do is change the way that we can then affect reality. What we found is that only 25 percent of job successes are predicted by I.Q. 75 percent of job successes are predicted by your optimism levels, your social support and your ability to see stress as a challenge instead of as a threat.
I talked to a boarding school up in New England, probably the most prestigious boarding school, and they said, "We already know that. So every year, instead of just teaching our students, we also have a wellness week. And we're so excited. Monday night we have the world's leading expert coming in to speak about adolescent depression. Tuesday night it's school violence and bullying. Wednesday night is eating disorders. Thursday night is elicit drug use. And Friday night we're trying to decide between risky sex or happiness."(Laughter) I said, "That's most people's Friday nights." (Laughter) (Applause) Which I'm glad you liked, but they did not like that at all. Silence on the phone. And into the silence, I said, "I'd be happy to speak at your school, but just so you know, that's not a wellness week, that's a sickness week. What you've done is you've outlined all the negative things that can happen, but not talked about the positive."
But the real problem is our brains work in the opposite order. If you can raise somebody's level of positivity in the present, then their brain experiences what we now call a happiness advantage, which is your brain at positive performs significantly better than it does at negative, neutral or stressed. Your intelligence rises, your creativity rises, your energy levels rise. In fact, what we've found is that every single business outcome improves. Your brain at positive is 31 percent more productive than your brain at negative, neutral or stressed.You're 37 percent better at sales. Doctors are 19 percent faster, more accurate at coming up with the correct diagnosis when positive instead of negative, neutral or stressed. Which means we can reverse the formula. If we can find a way of becoming positive in the present,then our brains work even more successfully as we're able to work harder, faster and more intelligently.
(Applause)



當我申請哈佛就讀時,我其實是冒險一試 我不期望他們會接受我,我家也沒錢讓我讀大學 直到二個星期後我得到了軍方的獎學金,他們就讓我去了 突然,一件原本不可能的事成真了 當我入學時,我以為我的同學都會把能進哈佛當成殊榮 他們應該會很高興能入學 即使你整班的同學都比你聰明 你都該為了能在這個班而高興,至少我是這麼覺得的 但是我發現 雖然有些人的確這麼想 四年後當我大學畢業 然後又花了八年的時間跟學生們住在宿舍 -- 是哈佛要我住的;我不是那個郵包炸彈客 (笑聲) 哈佛聘雇我當指導老師,幫助學生度過這困難的四年我在我的研究及教學中發現 不管這些學生原本 對能成功入學這件事有多高興 入學二個星期後他們腦子專注的事,既不是這件殊榮 也不是哲學課或物理課 他們的腦子專注於競爭、工作量 麻煩、壓力、抱怨
我跟新英格蘭州的一間寄宿學校談過,這所學校大概是最有名的寄宿學校 他們說:「我們早就知道了 所以每年我們除了教學外,還有一個健康周活動 我們非常興奮。星期一晚上我們請了世界領先的專家 來談談青少年期的憂鬱 星期二晚上是有關學校暴力及罷凌的問題 星期三晚上則是飲食障礙 星期四晚上談毒品誘惑 星期五晚上討論危險性行為與快樂的抉擇。」(笑聲) 我說:「大部份人的星期五晚上都是這樣的。」 (笑聲) (鼓掌) 我很高興你們喜歡這個笑話,但是他們不喜歡 電話的那一頭默不作聲 為了打破僵局,我說:「我很高興能在你的學校演講 不過你知道,那不是健康周,那簡直是疾病周 你所做的其實是強調所有可能發生的負面東西 但是都沒有提到正向的東西。」
但其實我們的腦子是以相反的方式在運作的 如果你可以提升一個人目前的積極程度 那麼他的腦子會經歷我們稱之為"快樂優勢"的感覺 就是當你的腦部處於積極狀態 會比消極時、中立時或者處在壓力時 顯著表現更好 你的理解力提升,你的創造力增加,你的活動力也升高 事實上我們發現 每一種業務成效都進步了 你的創造力在你的腦部處於積極狀態時, 會比處於消極、中立,或者有壓力時,提高31% 銷售量提高37% 醫師如果感覺積極時, 會比處於消極、中立,或者有壓力時, 看診速度快19%,接下來的診斷也更精準 所以說我們要把公式反過來寫 如果我們可以找到讓當下就很積極的方法 那麼我們的腦子就會更靈活 我們就可以更努力、更快的工作,而且更明智

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周五 5/3  1.愛心待用餐

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愛心待用餐


'Suspended coffee' tradition inspires noodle vendor in Taiwan (By Jay Chen)

 


Taipei, April 12 (CNA) For the past two weeks, a noodle shop in New Taipei has served noodles to people in need for free in honor of the Italian tradition of "caffe sospeso," or suspended coffee, and the practice is already resonating in other small businesses nearby.


 


The soup noodles are in fact not free but paid for in advance by other customers so that they are reserved, or "suspended," for people who cannot afford the shop's fare.



 

According to the Apple Daily, Yen Lin-ying, who has run the shop in a market in Banqiao District for 32 years, started asking customers in late March whether they would pay for noodles to give away to others after her son told her about the suspended coffee movement he saw on Facebook.


 

The response was surprisingly positive, she said.


 

In two weeks, customers have paid for more than 40 suspended bowls of noodles at NT$75 each, and half of the bowls have already been served to needy people who are just learning about the help she's offering.


 

Yen keeps track of suspended noodles on offer on a whiteboard in her shop.

 


Among those she has given food to are a single mother and her child who shared a bowl of noodles and an unemployed man who ordered the noodles to go so he could give them to his elderly mother at home.



 

Since she began the practice, two other food shops and three stalls in the market have also offered to provide their own versions of suspended service.


"I never imagined that a mere bowl of noodles could have such an impact," the 60-year-old was quoted as saying. She hopes the suspended noodles could help promote the power to do good so that more people can benefit, she said.


 

As in Italy, where the tradition of caffe sospeso has enjoyed a kind of revival because of hard economic times, poverty and hunger have become more common in Taiwan. Earlier this year, the New Taipei government began a program under which school children of low-income families can get food for free in neighborhood convenience stores.


 

Yen's initiative won widespread praise after the Apple Daily first reported her story Friday.


 

Questions:


1.  What do you think about the "suspended meal" idea?


What are your opinions on helping the "less fortunate?


2.  Are you willing to help others?


What do you do to help others?


3. Have you ever donated money to a charity?


4.  Should people donate money and volunteer time to help others?


5. How to motivate people to help the people in need?


6.  Are you willing to sacrifice your life for a complete stranger?

 

我是歌手


Culture and influence (China Post)


 The popularity of "I Am a Singer" was demonstrated by the amount of time major Taiwanese TV stations gave to broadcasting the show. In fact, news stations that broadcast the finale of the show have found themselves in deep water for doing so.


 Cable news channels ETTV and CTi Television may each be fined due to their overnight broadcast of the TV show, the National Communications Commission (NCC) said. News channels are not supposed to devote so much of their programming to entertainment shows, and the coverage of the show also prevented the public from getting news reports, the NCC pointed out.


 

The two channels broadcast the last episode of "I Am a Singer" for as long as four hours, said the NCC, noting that it received complaints from viewers. Mainland China TV programs have to be sent to the Ministry of Culture for review before being broadcast, which did not happen in this case. This has led to concerns about China's growing cultural influence on Taiwan.


 

Of course, Taiwan has its own popular talent shows, but critics say local TV stations cannot afford to create a show like "I Am a Singer," which features stunning sound and lighting effects and movie-quality videos introducing singers' lives.


 

Noting that Hunan Satellite TV has invested heavily in making "I Am a Singer" such a huge success, Lung said Taiwan must consider how it can retain its creativity and competitiveness with the country's relatively small economy. Taiwan must work harder to keep its edge in the entertainment industry, she warned. "Will Taiwan retain its abundant talents in pop culture 30 years from now?" she asked. This is now a question that many people are asking.

 


Questions:


1.   What do you think about the talent show?

2.   Why Chinese talent show captivates Taiwanese viewers?

3.    In your opinion, who is the best singer in the talent show?

4.   Which songs or singers do you like the most?

5.   How does the growing Chinese influence on Taiwan's culture?

6.   "Will Taiwan retain its abundant talents in pop culture 30 years from now?"


 

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二聚會 4/30 1.握手禮儀 2. 婚前協議


 
 
 
握手禮儀
Koreans Slap Bill Gates for 'Rude' Handshake (ABC News' Joanne Kim)


The buzz in town today is this photograph of Microsoft founder Bill Gates' shaking hands with South Korea President Park Geun-hye.


Gates, 57, might have not realized it Monday, but a one-hand shake in Korean culture - and also in Asia - is notably casual, done only when the other party is a good friend, of the same or younger age. Using one hand with the other tucked in the pants pocket is considered rude here, done when one is expressing superiority to the other.


"Perhaps it was his all-American style but an open jacket with hand in pocket? That was way too casual. It was very regretful," said Chung Jin-suk, secretary general at the Korean National Assembly.


President Park's office has said nothing publicly about the incident and a spokesperson for Gates declined to comment.


But Internet chat rooms and social network sites are filled with views debating cultural differences and analyses of Gates' laid-back style.


"I don't know if that was ignorance or just plain disrespect," Cho Park, a Korean student studying in New York, said. "It was pretty rude of him. The thing is I'm not sure if it is rude in Western culture."


"Cultural difference or bad manners?" the Joongang Ilbo newspaper wrote.


This is not just a Korean thing. It's an international protocol.


"Maybe it was intentional. Otherwise, he has a very strange habit."


Gates was in South Korea on a three-day visit to promote his start-up TerraPower, which is developing next-generation nuclear reactors.

Questions:

1. Why is it important to have good manners? .
2. Why international etiquette is so important

3. Do you think that Bill Gates handshakes weird and disrespectful?
4. What are the best ways for social etiquette?
And how to have good manners?

5. Should we mind our manners on a public occasion?

Why should we mind our manners?

6. What do you think about etiquette and culture differences?


 

婚前協議



Prenuptial Marriage Agreements  (By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com )

Are prenuptial marriage agreements a death knell for romance? Or are prenuptial agreements practical solutions to dealing with the problematic topic of finances in a marriage?

 More and more couples are signing prenuptial marriage agreements before they marry. These are not just couples dealing with financial inequality, or couples who have a lot of wealth. These are couples who want to put all their financial cards on the table before they walk down the aisle.

Pros of Prenuptial Agreements:

Financial matters need to be faced.

Prenuptial agreements can preserve family ties and inheritance.

If your future spouse won't sign a prenuptial marriage agreement, it may be best to discover this before the wedding.

The financial well-being of children from a previous marriage can be protected.

Personal and business assets accumulated before your marriage are protected.

A prenup puts financial expectations out on the table before your wedding.

A prenuptial marriage agreement spells out which assets a spouse may want to give to children or other family members in the event of death.

In the event of a divorce, a prenuptial agreement eliminates battles over assets and finances.

Cons of Prenuptial Agreements:

They are unromantic.

Prenups can give the appearance that there is a lack of trust between the partners.

A prenuptial agreement could create resentment between spouses.

A prenuptial marriage agreement makes it seem like there is a lack of a life-time commitment to one another.
Questions:

1. Do you think a prenuptial agreement is a good idea for couples?

if you consider a prenuptial agreement what conditions would you sing in a prenuptial?

2. It is proper to talk money before marriage?
 
3. Do you think money issues cause more arguments in marriage?
How to resolve financial conflicts and keep love in your marriage?
4. Separate or joint bank accounts in marriage?
Do you think that couples’ property should split 50-50?
5. What happens to property after a divorce?
6. What are the other common marriage problems?

比爾蓋茲手插褲兜與韓總統握手被批無禮  (澳洲日報)



美國微軟公司創始人比爾·蓋茲22日與韓國總統朴槿惠握手時,一隻手插在口袋內。這一“隨意”行為23日遭韓國媒體批評。



韓國各大媒體均在頭版刊登這幅握手照片。《中央日報》在照片說明中寫道:“文化差異,或是無禮行為?”《東亞日報》則發問:“無禮的握手?隨意的握手?”


一些社交網站同樣熱議。有人發布留言:“即便考慮到文化差異,某些場合應有恰當禮儀……他(蓋茲)怎麼能在會晤一國領導人時把手插在口袋裏?”


法新社評述,韓國人注重禮節,對任何可能傷及其民族自豪感的行為尤其敏感。2008年,蓋茲會晤韓國前總統李明博時,同樣一手插在口袋內;他2011年會晤韓國前總統金大中時則採取更為尊重的雙手握手。
 
 
「錢」的問題 
 
由於影視名人婚變事件,層出不窮,凸顯出「錢」的問題,常是婚姻中爭執的導火線,而「錢」的問題也常見於一般離婚夫婦中,讓我們來談談『婚前契約』的必要性與否? (Billy)

 
于美人婚變

知名節目主持人于美人,上月30日召開記者會,說明丈夫和母親爆發口角衝突的事件始末,還提到16年的婚姻關係緊張,近5年來更是衝突不斷。只是兩人的「家事」,連日來卻頻頻登上新聞版面,甚至還扯出于美人與公婆早已10多年不相往來,James也對丈母娘頗有怨言,2個人的婚姻路似乎已經危機四伏? 327日于美人母親和James爆發激烈口角衝突,於是報警處理,30日早上事件爆發,同日下午于美人火速召開記者會說明,證實因擔心母親安危已申請保護令。接著她開始列出James多項罪狀,包含他毀謗自己、恐嚇母親、失業不養家、拋下孩子獨自南下等,坦言兩人分居且關係不佳。

面對于美人自爆婚姻出現危機,丈夫James也不甘示弱的發表聲明,除了否認于美人的指控外,甚至還大動作地表示,不排出公布錄音帶內容自清。只是雙方的婚姻出現裂痕,除了是對於彼此父母都有所抱怨外,最重要的原因,不外乎就是因為「錢」的問題

金友莊、高凌風離婚至今錢喬不攏

金友莊昨錄年代「今晚誰當家」大談離婚話題,砲火仍持續猛轟高凌風欠錢不還,除了以她名義超貸的1850萬房貸至今尚未釐清,高凌風還以「病重」為由避不見面,但私下卻是護產動作不斷,還帶著記者到她委任律師的辦公室,用意啟人疑竇;高凌風的友人私下爆料:「他對外哭窮,其實錢都藏在海外。」讓金友莊質疑他的背後有高人指點,將犯行提升至「經濟犯」的程度。


每周一句 4/28 draw (somebody's) fire
 
draw (somebody's) fire 遭受批評--- if something or someone draws fire, they are criticized


Examples:


Her awkward performances have drawn fire from audiences


Their approval of same-sex marriage is expected to draw fire from Churches.


His recent comment was bound to draw fire.


 


 



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Would You Marry For Love Or Money  (ghanacelebrities.com)


I was recently in the presence of my friends and some colleagues from work, mind you we were only girls and the conversation naturally turned to relationships and marriage.


Somewhere over the course of the conversation this question crept its way into it. Majority of the girls, in fact ninety nine percent, opted for love and when it got to my turn I opted for money.


For some reason I don’t know why my revelation was a big bolt from the blue to my friends, after all, people get married for  various reasons.


Now, I know some of you GhanaCelebrities.Com readers have already tagged me the biggest gold digger on this side of Africa but I do not care. That would still not change my beliefs about marrying for money in the slightest bit. And yes, I have a conscience and good reasons for choosing money over love.


Let us be real here, no one goes into marriage thinking that love alone will sustain it. Wealth is very important in any relationship.


When you have financial problems, you are most likely to fight with your spouse or partner. So you see even those so-called suckers for love consider the money factor before they walk down that proverbial aisle.


So what is the point in holding it against one who settles for money over love.  What makes my choice any stranger than theirs?


My mother once told me “Smart women think more about the long run than the short term. Marriage is a long-term investment” and you definitely need to make that long term worth your while.


This assertion does have a true undertone to it.  Many young people rush into marriage these days with the notion that love will conquer it all. But that is an erroneous belief.


The divorce rate tells it all. Love fades, sex stops or greatly diminishes for most people eventually, and romance goes by the wayside (short run). Even the economic meltdown today can conquer the love that you both once shared.


However if you have the money you can have it all, the love and the happiness. Hell, even the sex gets better if you are most comfortable.


I do believe you have to at least like the person you are marrying and yes, all that may be replaced by a sense of comfort as opposed to that lusty feeling or affection you had with your partner at the beginning.


But for women especially as we get older, we would want to always buy our happiness through trips, outside activities, etc if we have the financial stability and money.


So you see the assertion holds true,  smart women or people know that they need to invest their lives wisely.



Questions:


1. Would you marry for love or money?


2. Why is love more important than money to marriage?


And why is money more important than love?


3. Do you think money issues in marriage are a problem?


4. Do you think is proper that talking money before marriage?


5. What are the important matters should discuss before marriage?


6. Do you think that romantic love can last forever?
 



死刑爭議


Taiwan condemned over executions  (BBC)


Taiwan has executed six death row inmates, the first use of the death penalty this year.


The deputy justice minister said the brutality of the men's crimes meant there was no reason to show mercy.


Campaigning human rights group Amnesty International has condemned the move as "cold-blooded killing".


The executions - by shooting - "made a mockery of the authorities' stated commitment to abolish the death penalty", Amnesty said in a statement.


"It is abhorrent to justify taking someone's life because prisons are overcrowded or the public's alleged support for the death penalty," the statement said.


Popular support


The executions were carried out in three separate prisons in different parts of the country - two in the capital, Taipei, two in the central city of Taichung and two in the south of the island.


All six of the men had been convicted of murder.


The BBC's Cindy Sui, in Taipei, says the executions come at a time of inflamed public debate about the death penalty following the death of a boy in a video arcade.


Local media reported the 29-year-old suspect had said he would get life in prison at most "even if he were to kill two or three".


He also reportedly said he would get free room and board in prison.


The reports led to public calls for all of those on death row to be executed.


A spokeswoman for the ministry of justice said that the executions had been carried out on a Friday evening to avoid a strong public reaction.


Though religious and human rights groups oppose capital punishment, most victims' families are in favour, and surveys suggest that most of the population also support the death penalty.



The ministry said it has the obligation to carry out the law until there is public consensus on abolishing the death penalty.



Questions:


1. What do you think about capital punishment?


2. Do you support the death penalty? If you do, what


reasons you support the death penalty?


If you don’t what reasons you oppose the death penalty


3. Do you agree that capital punishment protects the public?


4. Should government abolish the death penalty?


5. Is the death penalty an effective deterrent to crime?
女性為愛結婚   (國際中心/綜合報導吳增煌)



根據最新出爐調查,多數女性會為了愛情而非金錢結婚,但是交往對象或追求者若沒工作,她們卻又不願意嫁給他們,令調查單位直呼很諷刺。


這項調查由「富比世女人」(ForbesWoman)和YourTango.com共同進行。調查中,每4名女性中,就有3人表示不會和沒有工作的人結婚,65%女性認為,若和失業的人締結連理,感覺沒有安全感;但有超過91%的單身女性表示,她們會為愛而非為錢結婚。


「富比世女人」凱瑟禮(Meghan Casserly)說,「女性將愛情看得比錢重,但若交往對象或追求者沒工作,卻又不會嫁給他們,這種情況很諷刺。」更諷刺的是,受訪女性中,高達77%認為她們可以擁有圓滿的愛情和家庭生活,兼顧成功事業。


廢死嗆法務部 違反公約   (自由時報)


法務部再執行死刑,兩公約施行監督聯盟等人權團體昨召開記者會質疑,法務部不能把死刑犯請求總統赦免未獲回應,就當做被駁回而執行,這已經違反兩公約;法務部長曾勇夫明顯失職,應下台負責。


民間司改會辦公室主任高榮志強調,兩公約已經國內法化,其效力高於其他國內法,如果曾勇夫還是要執行死刑,就有違法之嫌,不只有行政責任,也有刑事責任。


 

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